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Our gorgeous 7-year-old son and his friend were having a discussion a couple of years ago, where they were talking about how a friend at kindy said something unkind about someone else. They referred to that person as a bucket dipper and were saying how they wanted to be bucket fillers.

They starting talking about, how much they cared for each other and saying things like, “You’re my best friend and I love playing with you, is your bucket getting full?” The other replied with, “Yes my buckets’ getting very full, you’re such a good friend, you’re the best, am I filling your bucket?”

They both went on to say how much they loved being bucket fillers and didn’t want to be bucket dippers, in the meantime melting my heart with their cuteness. I had no idea what they were talking about until they explained a concept they’d learnt at kindy called ‘Bucket Filling’.

What a beautiful thing to learn and grasp the concept of at such a young age and to use it down the track months later. They certainly filled my bucket up, with their deep understanding of behaviours and how they can affect other people and themselves.

They explained that we all have an ‘Invisible Bucket’ and when you say nice things to people you fill their bucket up. When you say mean things to people that’s called a bucket dipper. When you’re nasty, unkind or make someone feel bad, you’re stealing and taking from their bucket. When you are kind and say nice things that make people feel good, then you’re filling their bucket up.

The original concept allegedly started in the 1960’s by Dr. Donald O Clifton who also wrote books about it. The idea refers to positive attributes as being filled with love, joy, wisdom and faith in a movement that’s had a positive effect on many people’s lives for decades. How we feel or behave depends on how full or how empty our buckets are.

When it comes to resolving conflict, or talking to someone about something important without hurting their feelings, you could use this concept to think before you speak, for example by asking yourself first, “If I say it this way, would that be bucket dipping or bucket filling and is there another way I could say it, to ensure I was filling their bucket rather than dipping from it?”

Especially if that someone’s bucket is near empty. One little comment or remark could tip them over emotionally and completely empty their bucket in an instant. None of us are aware of how full or empty anyone else’s bucket is.

Just by thinking for a moment first about what you want to say or do, and whether it’s going to be bucket dipping or bucket filling, allows you to consciously act, speak and behave with awareness.

The bucket filling concept could be used as a moral compass for all forms of communication, thoughts and behaviours with yourself and others. It also enables us to understand how we can learn to consciously communicate with others in a positive manner.

Source http://www.bucketfillers101.com/faqs.php Written by Melita Vlatko-Rulo Jan 2017

Do you feel out of balance? Would you like the ability to control your stress levels? Do you have trouble sleeping because your mind will not stop? If you answered yes to any of the above, meditation may be for you. Imagine feeling calm and centred with a clear, focused mind.

Meditation has been practised for thousands of years and has been proven to help many people in various aspects of their lives. Holistic healing expert Ron Wilding, who has practised meditation daily for about 60 years, believes that 10-15 minutes of meditation can be equivalent to 2-3 hours of sleep. He claims this is due to your brain wave frequency slowing down to the alpha/theta levels, whilst in a meditative state.

It is in these brain wave frequencies that healing takes place, the body rejuvenates itself and your imagination and memory is enhanced along with your creative abilities. Stress dissipates in this state of mind leaving you feeling calm, peaceful and relaxed.

There are four brain wave levels, beta, alpha, theta and delta. Beta is a conscious state of mind, whilst alpha, theta and delta are altered states of consciousness in the subconscious mind. Children function mostly in the alpha, theta and delta levels, whilst adults function mainly in beta.

In beta the brain wave frequency occurs at 14-30 cycles per second, the fastest of all levels. In this state our nervous system is active, awake and busy. Stress generally occurs at this level. The alpha level is 8-13 cycles per second. Theta is 4-7 cycles per second and delta which occurs in adults whilst sleeping is the slowest brain wave level, at 1-5 cycles per second.

If you have never meditated before, you may want to check out my 9-minute and 30-minute 'Guided Rainforest Meditation' CD available in hardcopy and MP3 Audio versions here https://lovelta.com/shop/ from as little as $10. You will also find groups that run meditation classes in your local paper or you may want to go on a meditation retreat.

A retreat to check out is the Vipassana Centre, which is situated in every state. The centre is a non-profit organisation, which runs three and 10 day courses, with no set fee for accommodation, donations only with the vegetarian meals included in your stay. Expenses are met through donations given by students. For details go to www.dhamma.org/ or phone (07) 5485 2452.

Another centre is Chenrezig Institute, which is situated at Eudlo on the Sunshine Coast. Here you can stay as long as you like, with day and weekend courses on offer. Accommodation is from $25 p/night for a motel room and up to $60 p/night for a fully self contained cabin. Meals can be purchased from the on-site cafe.

Chenrezig Institute is less structured compared to Vipassana. You can do as little or as much meditation as you like, in the tranquil surroundings of one of the largest Tibetan Buddhist Centres in the western world. You can communicate or socialise with other guests except when you are in the mediation hall.

At Vipassana, if you think you are going for a holiday you are mistaken. It is an inner journey of the self where you do not talk to anyone for 10 days and meditate for approximately 10 hours a day.

I have experienced both centres and thoroughly recommend them. My Vipassana experience was deeper as the meditation and course structure was more intensive, disciplined and internalised. At the end of the course, I felt I could achieve anything with a true sense of detachment to the outcome of anything and just being present in each moment.

The experience is like watching a movie of your life, where things you thought you had dealt with come to the surface to be released. The aim though, is to simply observe these feelings or sensations no matter how pleasant or unpleasant and without being attached to, or craving a certain outcome or sensation. This training of the mind helps you deal with situations that surface in your everyday life.

Meditation retreats are like an un-cluttering or spring clean of the body, mind and soul. Spending time in nature with kangaroos, ducks and other wildlife, you cannot help but feel a deep sense of peace within and an affinity with nature. A truly empowering experience!